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Saturday, October 10
Not sure if I should post this



I was debating against writing this post, because I am too swamped to update my blog often and this would be at the top for awhile.

But, my blog was one of my pillars of support, and if I have any old readers out there, this update might interest you.

Basically, I could be homeless any second now, and I've been calling up different social services to do something about my situation. I've not told many people about this; I do not want to burden them or make them pity me, nor do I want people asking me for updates/how I am, because I am too busy trying to deal with my studies and this.

btw i am posting these cute bears 
so that the words and images below 
don't show up at the top

Writing here might not be a good idea, but hey, none of this is my fault and I'm still working hard in school so I have nothing to be ashamed of. Should this get any negative attention, I will remove it all immediately.

This is what's really been happening the past year.


Summary of situation 



Obviously this has to end once and for all. We've let this go on for 20+ years. It has to end.

So here are the steps I took
1. I posted on reddit, reddit advised me to speak to my MP

2. I went to meet my MP, Indranee Rajah who's fucking helpful and awesome

3. She hooked me up with IMH, AIC, FSC, HDB, IRA... basically government services to help me and they all contacted me within two days! 

4. We devised a plan to send my mom for treatment, but dad was reluctant so I got him to go for counseling and am trying to get my mom to go now

5. Talked to social services about any safety backup plans in case I become homeless, and financial grants and legal aid options. (Though I don't qualify for most of them because my family is not poor, I just have two parents who are mental and make shitty decisions.)


Reddit
You might have noticed that all my posts about my family were removed for several months. Here's why.

I got a lot of helpful replies from reddit. Around 10-20 people offered to personally go down and help me clear my mom's trash. I was so touched, because Singaporeans were offering to help an internet stranger... ಥ_ಥ

UNTIL SOME JOURNALIST CONTACTED ME.
He said he will help me, ON THE CONDITION THAT I personally go down and let him interview me.


WTF dude?????
I don't want to be in the news for this.

IF I MAKE THE NEWS. IT WILL BE ME STANDING IN FRONT OF THE CUTE GIRLS AND CATS I DRAW!!!

Mark my words.

Pang sai lah I don't fucking want to be in the news over my shitty family situation!! duh!

So before I had the chance to thank everyone who gave me great advice and offered to help me, I had to delete the post and unpublish all my blog posts. (╥︣﹏᷅╥᷅)


MP meeting
Anyway, I wrote this pretty long letter to explain my situation and went to meet Minister of Parliament Indranee Rajah. She read it and helped to refer me to all the government services that could help me.

Indranee Rajah

Sorry let me take a moment to describe how amazing this woman is. She devotes her life to helping us Singaporeans. She works til 1am meeting people in need of help and she has lots of Meet-the-people sessions too.

Soooooo now after I see how hard MPs have to work, I don't understand why people are complaining about how much they earn, because these are talented individuals who could be earning much more in the private sector. ༼ ಠل͟ಠ༽

Yeah so after this whole debacle I am actually starting to realize how awesome our government is.

I digress... anyway what happened next was


Talking to social services and IMH
IMH wanted my dad to bring my mom in there to seek treatment, by FORCE.

But my dad was really really scared and delayed it for months. Like, he didn't want them to extract her from the house into an ambulance with police surrounding her.

At first I was pissed, why is he not doing anything like DA FUCK MANG, YOUR CHILDREN ARE GOING TO BE HOMELESS  ಠ益ಠ  ಠ益ಠ  ಠ益ಠ

Okay but I understand this has been the hardest for him because you can't just shut out 30 years of abuse suddenly. He had lots of fears about doing to this my mom even though it is really for her own good.

Did I mention my dad is 64 years old and still working? This is exactly why we can't delay anymore.

I arranged a counseling session for him, and the counselor kind of talked some sense into him to take some action.

So now, my next step is to arrange for a counselling session for my mom, to try to convince her to seek treatment.

If that doesn't work, we'll have to do the force thing, ambulance and police and all.

I am very scared, but I am also very busy, so I try not to let this affect my work more than it already is.

With how much my dad earns, we don't really qualify for any.

But Family Social Services has offered some food and milo just in case so I got that goin' for me.

I have not really made plans for where to go if I were evicted. Most likely it would be with one of my relatives or my bf's room since he's overseas. But it is so far. And where do I put all my furniture?!! I have spoilt myself too much in my cosy room :(

I will look into getting financial aid if things worsen. So don't worry. I will probably never accept money from friends.


What I am feeling
I feel like I am doing too much. I had to drop AFA this year because I won't have time to draw. I am contacting social services and IMH to plan things these days, and I just wrote a 20 page document of my mom's behaviors for the doctors who will assess her. I have to keep my house clean. Reaching my dad is also hard and I have to beg him to do anything.

On the bright side, now I really know the procedure for engaging social services in Singapore. If you need help, you can follow my steps! You'll get response within a week :)


I am scared, sad and angry, but I also don't want to fuck up my future. I am worried I won't be able to do my Masters' overseas. I still have to study for my GREs and create a better portfolio.

All I want to concentrate on now is settling my family's issues and get my A's. I topped my class for NM4227 Project 1! But my japanese 1 is going badly :( :( :(

Speaking of school work, my FYP supervisor seems to be expecting a lot from me, so I'm not sure if I should disclose all this to him to explain that I might not have the time to do so much... I am doing my best though and he is really nice and responsive so I will feel bad if I disappointed him.


大丈夫 Daijobu
Don't worry I am still catching up on my anime because I can watch that while working.

If you are a concerned friend, the only help I really need right now is legal aid. 

Thanks for reading.

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